Every woman has secret feelings about how she feels about her body!
Secret feelings don’t just show up one day in your mind and heart, it’s like with anything that you struggle with, It starts when you were a baby.
The one thing that I have always thought was really fascinating is how little
baby girls are so aware of what’s going on around them. If you’ve ever watched
little babies, you’ll understand what I’m talking about. They seem to be so much
older than they really are!I think it’s just amazing how these little spirits that have
come to earth are so much more valiant then ever before.
And for that reason I want to focus on baby girls that become toddlers, pre-
teenagers, teenagers and then women because, those are the stages in a woman’s
life that she becomes more and more aware of how her body looks as she gets older.
If you’re a woman, you should have gone through all of those stages in your life and
are now at a point where you have recognized that you have these secret feelings
about your body!
Secret feelings can be good or bad, and maybe you have both good and bad feelings
about certain parts of your body because maybe, you might like your legs but not
really liking the rest of your body.There’s no end to what women can feel.
Baby girls are always paying attention to what’s going on around them, all the time. That’s just how girls are created.If you think about it, that kind of awareness is
something that continues on into adulthood.I know it’s definitely a gift from God
given to baby girls, so that when they grow up and become adults and have their
own families they will be able to know what’s happening and can nurture their
own children.
With that in mind, it’s safe to say that how girls feel about their body is something
that they learn from the women around them.It’s usually a woman and/or grand-
mother that are/is the one taking care of and raising little girls.
Everything that a baby, toddler, pre-teen & teenage girl hears about her body and
other women’s bodies is taken in and processed in a very unique way deep within
her mind and heart, because everyone is different.
From what I’ve seen and heard over the last 25 years working with women and
having women clients, is that most of what they say about their bodies is usually
negative.There were some that had extremely negative feelings.
Because I’ve sewn for women for such a long time, I thought I’ve heard it all! But, you know what happens when I have to take my clients body measurements? They start to reveal their secret feelings about how they feel about their bodies. I guess you might say that they trust me enough to let me take their body
measurements, so they trust me enough to tell me how they feel…about a
lot of things besides their body.
They’ve heard women in their life say things like – I have a big butt, I’m so fat,
I’m too short, I’m ugly compared to _ _ _ _ _(you fill in the blank), my boobs are
not big enough, I have thunder thighs!Wow!That would scare anyone.
These are only a few of the things that women think and secretly feel about
themselves, I have heard many more things from women but I won’t list them
all because it’s really sad.
A lot of the secret feelings women have about their bodies are a learned behavior
and comparing themselves to other women.It’s just natural for a little girl
growing up to copy what the women in their life are feeling, saying and doing –
even if it’s harmful to their mind, heart, body and spirit.
It is possible to overcome this kind of negative feeling about your body. It will
take a little time if you’re willing and want to let go of those negative feelings
that have been dragging you down for who knows how long.It’s not worth
holding on to negative secret feelings that are probably not true.
Women come in all shapes and sizes which is a wonderful thing, because that
makes us all unique.You have to know that your value as a woman is priceless.
One of the most powerful things that you can do to get started on having a
more positive feeling about your body is by learning how to dress for your body
shape, and height.
I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to dress in a way that makes you look
good in the clothes that you have on!I’ve seen it over and over again for many
years how wearing the right style of clothes that works to highlight the right
parts of your body and that fits you perfectly gives you a boost of confidence. Now that’s powerful!
Always remember – you want to wear clothes that work best for YOUR body
shape and height, not wear the style of clothes that the fashion models are
wearing that you see on commercials and in magazines.
