Episode #23 – Every Woman Has Secret Feelings About Her Body

Today I want to talk about the topic that ‘every woman as
secret feelings about how she feels about her body!’

I wanted to start off by letting you know that this is really
common.  Every woman has secret feelings about she
feels about her body.

Secret feelings don’t just show up one day in your mind
and heart, it’s like with anything that you struggle with,
it starts when you were a baby.

The one thing that I have always thought was really fasci-
nating is how little baby girls are so aware of what’s going
on around them.  If you’ve ever watched little babies, you’ll
understand what I’m talking about – it’s really fascinating.

They seem to be so much older than they really are!  I think
it’s just amazing how these little spirits that have come to
earth and they’re so much more valiant then ever before,
they’re just so much smarter.

And for that reason I want to focus on baby girls that
become toddlers, pre-teenagers, teenagers and then
women because, those are the stages in a woman’s
life that she becomes more and more aware of how her
body looks as she gets older. If you’re a woman, you
should have gone through all of those stages in your
life and are now you’re at a point where you have rec-
ognized that you have these secret feelings about your
body!

Secret feelings can be good or bad, and maybe you have
both good and bad feelings about certain parts of your
body because maybe, you might like your legs but not
really liking the rest of your body.  There’s no end to
what a woman can feel.

Baby girls are always paying attention to what’s going
on around them, all the time.  That’s just how girls are
created, we’re just aware of everything.  If you think
about it, that kind of awareness is something that con-
tinues on into adulthood.  I know it’s definitely a gift
from God given to baby girls, so that when they grow
up and become adults and have their own families they
will be able to know what’s happening and can nurture
their own children.

With that in mind, it’s safe to say that how girls feel about
their body is something that they learn from the women
around them.  It’s usually a woman and/or grandmother
that are/is the one taking care of and raising little girls.
A lot of grandparents are raising kids now days and it’s
been happening for decades.

Everything that a baby, toddler, pre-teen & teenage girl
hears about her body and other women’s bodies is taken
in and processed in a very unique way deep within her
mind and heart, because everyone is different.

We take all of these things in, and I’m speaking for myself
too.

From what I’ve seen and heard over the last 25 years
working with women and having women clients, is that
most of what they say about their bodies is usually negative.
There were some that had extremely negative feelings too.

Because I’ve sewn for women for such a long time, I thought
I’ve heard it all!  But, you know what happens when I have
to take my clients body measurements?  They start to reveal
their secret feelings about how they feel about their body,
because I’m wrapping a tape measure around them.

I guess you might say that they trust me enough to let me
take their body measurements, so they trust me enough to
tell me how they feel…about a lot of things besides their body.

They’ve said things like – they’ve heard women in their life
say things out loud like – I have a big butt, I’m so fat, I’m
too short, I’m ugly compared to _ _ _ _ _(you fill in the blank),
my boobs are not big enough, I have thunder thighs!  Wow!

That would scare anyone.  These are only a few of the things
that women think and secretly feel about themselves, I have
heard many more things from women but I won’t list them all
because it’s really sad.

I just love people so much that I don’t even want to say some
of the things that I’ve heard.

A lot of the secret feelings women have about their bodies
are a learned behavior and comparing themselves to other
women.  It’s just natural for a little girl growing up to copy
what the women in their life are feeling, what they’re saying
and what they’re doing – even if it’s harmful to their mind,
their heart, their body and their spirit.

It is possible to overcome this kind of negative feeling about
your body. (I just wanted to let you know)

It will take a little time if you’re willing and want to let go of
those negative feelings that have been dragging you down
for who knows how long.  It’s not worth holding on to negative
secret feelings that are probably not true.

I’ve heard a lot of things that I know are not true about what
these women are saying.

Women come in all shapes and sizes which is a wonderful
thing, because that makes us all unique.  You have to know
that your value as a woman is priceless.  I hope you ladies
think about this!

One of the most powerful things that you can do to get
started on having a more positive feeling about your body
is by learning how to dress for your body shape, and your
height.

I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to dress in a way
that makes you look good in the clothes that you have on!
I’ve seen it over and over again for many years how wearing
the right style of clothes that works to highlight the right parts
of your body (not that there’s a wrong part of your body), but
you want to put an emphasis on the right parts and not only
that, but wearing the right styles of clothing that fits you per-
fectly and it just happens to give you a boost of confidence
when you are wearing clothes that fits you right and you feel
good in it.

Now that, I say is powerful!  We all want confidence right!

Always remember – you want to wear clothes that work best
for YOUR body shape and height, and not wear the style of
clothes that the fashion models are wearing that you see on
commercials and in magazines and bill-boards, you see it
everywhere.

A these images that you see are photoshopped, none of it is
real.  Just remember these things.

When YOU look good, you FEEL good!  Looking good is
different for everyone.

I wanted to share that with you today, it is possible for
everyone to look good in the clothes that their wearing.

As I share more podcast episodes, as I mix in the fashion
and the style and the clothing fit in with your finances – I’m
going to show you how it all works together.

I thank you and I really want you to send me a message,
you can either email me at janin@fashionablefinance.com
or you can go to my website and send me a voicemail message.

I would love to hear what you would want to know about and
some of the things that you’re feeling or some of the things
that you’re learning or any ah-ha moments.  I would love that!
It really makes my day when I get messages from people.

I really hope that you really get a lot of value and maybe even
re-listen to this episode, because these secret feelings about
your body – maybe you want to think about it and see.  Are your
feelings negative or positive?

I would love for you to share this podcast with anybody who
you feel would benefit from listening to all of these things that
I’m teaching and sharing.

I hope you have a great day and I’ll see you soon, and I will
definitely be talking with you again.

a hui hou, malama pono – until next time, take care!

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